Picture Your Porch

Picture yourself sitting on your porch when you’re 70.

Are you sitting alone?

Will anyone care what you did tonight?  Last night?  Last year?

Will you?

For me, one of my biggest fears is that near the end I will feel overwhelming sorrow that no one around me cares about my war stories from these “8pm missions” I fight for every night.

I doubt I’m the only one.  Someone else must feel the same way.

We put our heart and soul into what we do and if we don’t include enough other people in our adventures, we risk being that old guy (or gal) on the porch telling stories to people who don’t remember, don’t know, don’t care.  We could end up lonely because we got so lost in our private war that we let everything, everyone slip away.

It’s Christmas Eve.

Go spend time with family.  Its nights like these when you fill up your porch with more than your colleagues, partners, and clients.  Include others in your battles.  Share your world with the other people you want on your porch.

We sit up every night working, writing, blogging, reading, thinking, dreaming.  But if we don’t share it, don’t include others, we’re destined to be the lonely veterans of a one soldier war.  Picture your porch.

8pm Warriors don’t have to do it alone.

Make it a Merry Christmas.


Published by Aaron Biebert

I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

10 comments on “Picture Your Porch”

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  1. Steve, I’ll sit on the porch with you. :-)

    Balance is key. I’m not saying work less. I’m saying work more inclusively.

    If we don’t do what we do (work long, crazy, passionate hours), we risk having no war stories to tell. I think that’s a big fear for many…hence the mid life crisis.

    I don’t want to give the wrong impression. The people you fight alongside are just as important as your family when you’re on the porch. I think it’s important to bring your family up to that level…but not necessarily higher. I think people that are obsessed with their families often times forget that they’ve got a lot of work to do to be who/what they want to be.

    I know people will disagree with me on that one, but I think it’s true.

    Who do you spend most of your time with?
    Who understands “what you do” best?
    Who shares most success and failures?

    Those are the some of the people you’ll want to talk with on “the porch”, and I think it should be a healthy mix of fellow warriors and family members if you do it right.

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