Love What Hurts

It’s common to hear mentors advise young people to do what they love. I’ve offered that advice myself many times.

However, I wonder if it’s become an excuse for some who confuse “doing what they love” with avoiding things they don’t love.

  • Rejection is painful
  • No one loves working long hours while others play
  • Failure hurts

The best way to successfully do what you love is to work while others play, get rejected numerous times, and fail forward and faster than others in your field.  In a world of unlimited competition, the winners will be separated by mere inches, their level of passion, and the bravery to do what hurts.

Doing what hurts is the key to doing what you love.

Have a great night,


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Published by Aaron Biebert

I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

12 comments on “Love What Hurts”

  1. I heard that 80% of Baby Boomers are supporting an adult child. Some of those kids are doing what they love, not what hurts.

    Problem is, that can only go on for so long.

  2. That’s really a scary statistic. Sad. Let’s just hope we can inspire enough individuals to get on the haunches of life – and work hard!

    My father has always told me to do what I love, and you’ll find a way to make money. But that whole “finding a way” part takes time. It’s very difficult, it’s hard, painful, and takes lots and lots of time.

    People have to do what they love – and realize that it needs to be at least SOMEWHAT beneficial to society. We all love TV, but that’s not achieving anything worthwhile – and you’re not going to find a job doing that. :D

    1. Christian, I love using extreme examples to make a point. The “we all love TV” point is a great one. There must be more than just love. It must offer some future, some way to make a difference. An income would be nice too.

      With that said, I do believe you’re right about finding a way to make money on what you love…as long as you’re willing to accept some “not so fun” moments along the way.

      Thanks for the great comment!!

  3. Lance Armstrong would agree :) An old quote from him:

    “Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever. That surrender, even the smallest act of giving up, stays with me. So when I feel like quitting, I ask myself, which would I rather live with?”

    1. Dave, that’s a very fitting comment and great reminder from someone who did what he loved and was successful.

      Pain is temporary.

      Thanks for the comment Dave!

  4. Interesting discussion. As with many of your topics, I think context is very important.

    In choosing a profession, I decided to “do what I love” by becoming a software engineer. I “love” computers, and programming is something that comes naturally to me.

    However, I definitely understand your point about pain. One cannot (basically) become a professional computer programmer without a bachelor’s degree. I never really enjoyed school. I’ve often said that I hated it. However, I toughed it out and graduated with honors in order to start a career doing what I love.

    Also, consider: I would rather play with computers on my own time than work with them for an employer. Of course, it’s really hard to support myself, a family, and others while just playing. (see T.V. above) Therefore, I’m currently working hard so that I can retire at a reasonable age and play hard!

  5. Very interesting. You often hear that nothing worth doing is easy. You have to work hard for real results. We live in a culture were mistakes are the worst things we can make and that the fear of failure is so en-grained in us that we often cost with the bare minimum. Society often makes it hard for us to even try. How does that logic even work?

    Loved the post though, thanks.


  6. Loving something, really loving it, goes beyond enjoying it. True love is a commitment that binds us to a thing through the thick and thin. Love without responsibility is not love, it’s just a preference – as profound (or not so profound) as a facebook like.

  7. Something to keep in mind: I think we’re talking about many different forms of love here. (Not that I disagree with any of the comments above.) The word has many definitions. After all, the Greeks had three different words for our “love” and they all meant different things.

  8. Jeremy: C.S. Lewis counts four – if I remember correctly. But still, I think some analogy may be drawn from any of the three or four concepts of love to what and why you do what you do. You?

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