Who Do Leaders Tell When They Stub Their Toe?

We all stub our toes.

We all want to tell someone about it.

When we’re kids, we go to mom or dad.  In school, we call our buddies.  In a marriage, we have our spouse.

I don’t know many successful organizations with two people at the top, and most leaders sit alone when they get hurt, make mistakes, weigh important decisions and need help.

Who was sitting with Leo Apotheker this week as he waited for his firing?  Who helped Steve Jobs pack his things when Apple’s board fired him in 1985?

Leadership can be a lonely business.

It doesn’t need to be.  When leaders allow themselves to join their team and open up, they find something magical happens.

They’re not alone.

Everyone knows we’re human.  We need to act like it.  People expect it and respect it.

We need to open up when we stub our toe.

Have a great night,


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Published by Aaron Biebert

I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

8 comments on “Who Do Leaders Tell When They Stub Their Toe?”

  1. What’s the balance here, Aaron? As the leader, you certainly can’t spend time whining or complaining to your staff. How can you be open and transparent with them without seeming like you’re budding up or pushing your worries onto them?

    1. Kenna, I think that’s the million dollar question. I’m certainly not advocating for leaders to spend all day at the water cooler whining about shareholders, the board, other leaders, or family problems.

      However, I do know some leaders that feel the need to keep themselves separated from their team as part of “leadership”. They strive to show no crack in the armor.

      I think it is not only poor leadership to strive to be superhuman, but I think it is a form of self abuse.

      Leaders can lead and be human too.

      Everything in balance.

  2. Aaron, when I fall into the trap of thinking I’m alone it’s because I’m thinking selfishly. Not to say that’s the case for all leaders. It’s a personal indicator for me to stop thinking of me and shift my perspective.

    As usual, you leave us with thought provoking commentary.

  3. Even a leader can have a circle of support; a mentor or two, trusted friends, the right-hand man who hears the leaders ups and downs daily. When I spend time to express the peaks and valleys with a teammate, regardless of their positioning, it “feels good” and also can empower said teammate. First time stopping by the blog, am enjoying it ~ thanks.

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