Trailblazing is Lonely Work

Chasing dreams and pushing limits is not without sacrifice.

When you choose to do things that no one has done before, you’ll often find no one next to you while doing it. That’s the nature of trailblazing.

8pm Warriors will have lonesome nights.

Unfortunately, I have no clever solution to this problem. I see fellow 8pm Warriors suffering and I thought I would put this out there for you to discuss.

What can be done? Can anything be done? Is there a limit before someone burns out?

Personally, I enjoy connecting with other 8pm Warriors who are up and at ’em at night when I’m chasing my life goal by myself. Luckily I also have a supportive spouse and that helps too. Finding a life partner was my first mission.

Others adopt pets, Skype a ton, or bring a Google+ hangout with them all over the house.

What do you recommend?

Let’s battle loneliness tonight,

Aaron @Biebert

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Published by Aaron Biebert

I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

13 comments on “Trailblazing is Lonely Work”

  1. Understanding the nature of the game (trail-blazing) and knowing that you can’t change it, is half the battle. There’s discomfort and uncertainty…and loneliness abounds! 
    I try to remember the past feelings of small successes. They remind me that those same feelings were there then, too, and I made it through okay, so I can do it again.
    I’m my own worst enemy when it comes to bringing a vision to life. I need conversation, camaraderie, and sometimes input. But, I’ve learned over time that I shouldn’t necessarily share my dreams and goals unless I want to kill them when they are in their infancy and vulnerable to cannibals!
    That said, I’m indebted to social media that reminds me that I have friends, I’m human, and that there’s a world “out there”! It definitely helps to mix it up when I’m discouraged!!
    Thanks, Aaron. Nice to see you!

    1. Hey Betsy!

      I agree that coming into this with eyes open is a big part of surviving it.  I feel similar thoughts to you and enjoy similar remedies.
      Thanks so much for the thoughts.  I appreciate it dearly.


  2. This is so true, thank you posting. Reminding ourselves about the nature of the path we chose definitely help. I found talking to somebody who is willing to listem and giving suggestions also helps to clarify and keep moving.

    Best wishes to all 8p.m. worriors from roof of the world

  3. Hey Aaron, that post’s a trailblazer in its own right!  Sharing your angst is a step towards strengthening the resolve.  People like me and others here respond because we know that place.  So you are never alone, just spatially at a loose end.

  4. This is what I did when I wanted to start a group on mental health in college. Trust me, no one was volunteering to be in this group. I realized that people did not have to be for my cause to help. I simply engaged kids who were not involved in other activities. 

    What I did in the beginning was engage artists to make posters.They didn’t care what the art was for, they got to play with paint and markers. Then they joined the group because they became my friends. It spread from there. 

    So, engage people that others ignore. Find people with skills and talents that will join up with you because they will get a chance to do what they really love. 

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