There’s So Much More than Independence

While celebrating Independence Day this afternoon, I got to thinking…

Why do so few people talk about the next step after independence?  When do we get to celebrate interdependence?

As much as I love independence, there’s so much more.  Before I continue, let me define three stages of dependence as I see them:

  1. Dependence – You need someone
  2. Independence – You don’t need someone
  3. Interdependence – You choose to need someone

Every major success I’ve had in my life is because of otherwise independent people who chose to give up some independence in order to make something great…together.  That’s interdependence.

When I was younger, I focused on independence and sought it at every turn. I went to college five hours away. I started my first business when I was 24 so I could work for myself.  

I was obsessed with independence!  In my immaturity I thought it was the goal, not just a step.

Those days are gone now.

Together we can always achieve more and that’s something to celebrate.  Major achievements require synergy.  Greater success requires interdependence.

Let me know if you agree.

Have an interdependent night,


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Published by Aaron Biebert

I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

6 comments on “There’s So Much More than Independence”

  1. Love this post. This is so true. I was thinking this (not the same words today) when enjoying time w/my kids today. On one hand they want to be big and be all grown up, independent. On the other they are begging me to do everything with them from take them to the skate park, sit on the funny chair, go swimming and the list goes on.

    I think it’s a struggle we have throughout life. I know I go thru stages of needing more of one or the other. My guess is it’s the causes of marital squabbles now and then as if you are both on different dependence wave lengths it probably doesn’t work out so well. I had never thought of it this way before.

    Hope your 4th was awesome!


    1. Thanks Pam, I completely agree that there is a struggle between the need for independence and the need to collaborate with others to achieve greater objectives.

      Glad to know I’m not alone!

  2. I agree, entirely. I find the trust that fuels interdependence gets stronger the more collaborative successes you have. It would be interesting to hear some stories about teams that actively work towards interdependence, and to get a glimpse of the roadblocks they found, and how they got around them.

    1. I think some people fear interdependence because of bad experiences when they were dependent on someone. Once you see how successful interdependence can be, it’s hard to not seek it out.

      Also, thanks for the idea of providing stories. Maybe I’ll tackle that one sometime soon.

  3. The missing no. 4. > “codependence,” haha. All jokes aside, @biebert this article provides a healthy reminder that without embracing others, we do not embrace opportunities to synergize.

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