Trailblazing is Lonely Work

Chasing dreams and pushing limits is not without sacrifice.

When you choose to do things that no one has done before, you’ll often find no one next to you while doing it. That’s the nature of trailblazing.

8pm Warriors will have lonesome nights.

Unfortunately, I have no clever solution to this problem. I see fellow 8pm Warriors suffering and I thought I would put this out there for you to discuss.

What can be done? Can anything be done? Is there a limit before someone burns out?

Personally, I enjoy connecting with other 8pm Warriors who are up and at ’em at night when I’m chasing my life goal by myself. Luckily I also have a supportive spouse and that helps too. Finding a life partner was my first mission.

Others adopt pets, Skype a ton, or bring a Google+ hangout with them all over the house.

What do you recommend?

Let’s battle loneliness tonight,

Aaron @Biebert

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Don’t Be the Lonely Veterans of a One Soldier War

Picture yourself sitting on your porch when you’re 70.

Are you sitting alone?

Will anyone care what you did tonight?  Last night?  Last year?

Will you?

One of my biggest fears is that as enter the twilight of my life, I will feel overwhelming sorrow that no one around me cares about my war stories from these “8pm Warrior missions” I fight every night.

I doubt I’m the only one.

You and I put our heart and soul into what we do.  I see it every day.

However, if we don’t include enough other people in our adventures, we risk being that old guy or gal sitting on the porch telling stories to people who don’t remember, don’t know, or don’t care.

We risk loneliness when we become so lost in a personal war with it’s private battles, that we let everything and everyone slip away.

It’s Christmas Eve.

 

Go spend time with family.  It’s nights like these when you fill up your future porch with more than your colleagues, partners, and clients.  Let others see your battles. Share your world with the people you want on your porch when you’re older.

We sit up every night working, reading, writing, thinking, and dreaming.  However, if we don’t share our life and involve others, we’re destined to be the lonely veterans of a one soldier war.

Picture your porch.  Then fill it up.

8pm Warriors don’t have to do it alone.

Have a Merry Christmas,

Aaron@Biebert

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Who Do Leaders Tell When They Stub Their Toe?

We all stub our toes.

We all want to tell someone about it.

When we’re kids, we go to mom or dad.  In school, we call our buddies.  In a marriage, we have our spouse.

I don’t know many successful organizations with two people at the top, and most leaders sit alone when they get hurt, make mistakes, weigh important decisions and need help.

Who was sitting with Leo Apotheker this week as he waited for his firing?  Who helped Steve Jobs pack his things when Apple’s board fired him in 1985?

Leadership can be a lonely business.

It doesn’t need to be.  When leaders allow themselves to join their team and open up, they find something magical happens.

They’re not alone.

Everyone knows we’re human.  We need to act like it.  People expect it and respect it.

We need to open up when we stub our toe.

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

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Trey Pennington Was Not Alone

He offers us advice on one way to help avoid this tragedy in the future:

“Here’s something you can do right now, right where you are, and you don’t even need a book to show you how: when that next person walks into your office, calls you on the phone, or sends you an email, stop to seriously ponder the question, “Why am I glad this person is on the planet?”

When you have the answer to that question, take it from your mind, put it into words, and give those words to that person.”

– Trey Pennington

Trey, a fellow 8pm Warrior, killed himself this morning at a church in Greenville, SC. He was an amazing speaker, thinker, writer, and warrior.  He had a beautiful mind. Trey also suffered from depression.

This tragedy reminds me of a quote:

Be kind.  Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

– Plato

When I wrote the “Fighting a Hard Battle?  You’re Not Alone!” post in June, I was not surprised by how many of my fellow warriors felt the same way.  Pain is all around us.

  • We must learn to share our battles.
  • We must find the time to be kind.
  • We must push ourselves to avoid tragedies like this.

If you need someone to talk to, let’s talk.  You’re worth it.

No warrior left behind.

Have a kind night,

Aaron@Biebert

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The Lonely Life

Most modern warriors walk alone…

The following comment by Jim on a previous post shares my feelings about how lonely it can feel if you don’t have other 8pm Warriors to share the journey:

“I agree with you, but will admit that I do miss the steady diet of being around people who are committed to their dreams…”

It’s one of the reasons I started this blog and the Facebook, Twitter, and Linkedin 8pm Warrior communities.  Despite being very blessed with amazing business partners in some of my ventures, many times I still feel lonely.

Do you?

Take a minute and join us on one of the forums, introduce yourself, tell your story, and don’t be lonely.  Together we can prove that you’re not alone.

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert