Don’t Be the Lonely Veterans of a One Soldier War

Picture yourself sitting on your porch when you’re 70.

Are you sitting alone?

Will anyone care what you did tonight?  Last night?  Last year?

Will you?

One of my biggest fears is that as enter the twilight of my life, I will feel overwhelming sorrow that no one around me cares about my war stories from these “8pm Warrior missions” I fight every night.

I doubt I’m the only one.

You and I put our heart and soul into what we do.  I see it every day.

However, if we don’t include enough other people in our adventures, we risk being that old guy or gal sitting on the porch telling stories to people who don’t remember, don’t know, or don’t care.

We risk loneliness when we become so lost in a personal war with it’s private battles, that we let everything and everyone slip away.

It’s Christmas Eve.

 

Go spend time with family.  It’s nights like these when you fill up your future porch with more than your colleagues, partners, and clients.  Let others see your battles. Share your world with the people you want on your porch when you’re older.

We sit up every night working, reading, writing, thinking, and dreaming.  However, if we don’t share our life and involve others, we’re destined to be the lonely veterans of a one soldier war.

Picture your porch.  Then fill it up.

8pm Warriors don’t have to do it alone.

Have a Merry Christmas,

Aaron@Biebert

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I'm a director, film/video exec producer, leader & 8pm Warrior. I am passionately chasing my goals at all times. I'm listening. Let's talk!

16 comments on “Don’t Be the Lonely Veterans of a One Soldier War”

  1. I have people in my life who are very sick, terminally, and struggle with making a difference because they can’t contribute the way they want. All I could offer was to suggest that being that person who sits and listens really does make a difference. When everyone else is distracted, but still needs to talk to someone, they can be that someone. That can be what they give. In the end we’ll see how many people feel like they can rely on us to be that good friend, the one who slows down to listen and to really hear. 
    Thanks Aaron, and Merry Christmas!

  2. I cannot say how much this describes me. I am trying so hard to succeed that I am neglecting the most important people in my life. And I think about what my future holds and worry sometimes I will be alone in my Golden Years with nothing “real” to show for it.

  3. The sentiment here dovetails with my blog post about Life Lessons from Joe Walsh. We’ve gotten pretty good at praising our fellow 8PMWarriors…some of whom we will never meet in person. Yet we share our war stories to each other in the evenings, and we enjoy the camaraderie.

    However, did we share any of that praise and fellowship with the people with whom we share the same roof, and the same IRL experiences day-to-day? We’ve got to share life/love/laughter with our own families, or there will be nobody to share those things when we reach our twilight.

    So I am writing this comment late because I did share plenty with my family over the last few days. I’ve done pretty well with it throughout our lives, but I still endeavor to be even better at it going forward. Having said that, I’m also grateful to share experiences with folks like you, Aaron.

    I hope you had a wonderful Christmas…and are slated for a safe and Happy New Year!

    1. Brian, I’m glad for the delayed comment.  It means 1) That you spent time with family and 2) That you cared enough to circle back.You make a ton of great points here.  Thanks so much for adding to the discussion.  I think you hit the nail on the head.

  4. Thanks Aaron for this. 

    Well, I may not be an 8pm Warrior but I can truly relate to this.

    Like you guys, I’ve been working very hard, putting my heart and mind in everything I do and yes, sometimes, I neglect the things and the people that matters most and whom I offering all these efforts. 

    Do I regret it? 
    -No, because I know in my heart that everything that I do is for them and it will be them who will benefit from it. 

    Do I fear to become overwhelming sorrow that no one around me cares about my stories? 
    -NO!

    No, because it does not matter to me!

    For me, it will just be a bonus if I will have a family member that will care to listen to my stories and know what I’m doing. All I want is to give them a good life and that they know that I am doing all these for them because I love them, everything else does not matter.

    Future Porch
    Yeah, it may not be a family member but it can be my colleagues, partners, and clients that I will be sharing my future porch. I think there is nothing wrong with that. It may not be ideal, but I sincerely believe that authentic relationships and genuine friendships can be establish online.

    I think it should serve as consolation for us, that whatever may happen, our real life friends and family members may not remember, not know, or not care but we won’t run out of people that can be there for us and be with us. They may not be physcially present among us, but our online community can make us feel that they can be genuine friends and family members to us and it will be a pleasure to share a porch with such great people.

    Really…
    The perfect scenerio will be sharing that big porch with the people (realife/online) whom remembers, knows, and cares about us and our stories.

    Thanks again for this post, this made me share my world to great folks like you.

    I think it’s not too late to wish you a Merry Christmas and may we all have a prosperous New year ahead of us.

    8pm Warriors, I salute you!

    -Tof
     

      

     

  5. Aaron,

    I know for sure that when I’m 70 my husband will still care about my day. And we will be just as happy as we can be, sitting on our front porch, watching the sunset and looking at our flowers. 

    It’s too bad that the people we care about the most tend to get lost in the shuffle of the day-to-day. Let’s make a pact not to let this happen anymore!

    Kenna

  6. A beautiful and timely sentiment Aaron.  I know I don’t want to be alone in my battles.  Recently, as I have fought a few unexpected wars, I am reminded how lucky I am to have people like you on my side.  I am reminded how important and energizing it is to have people that are just there for you…who understand and empathize.  I don’t want to do life and career alone and I am grateful for my fellow warriors.  Thank you Aaron.  You have made a difference!
    Claudia

    1. Claudia, that’s so good to hear.  You definitely are not alone.  I’d love to sit on the porch someday and chat.  I’d love to hear your war stories.  You’re a fascinating person.

      Thanks for the nice comment.

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