Death by iPhone

“Aaron Biebert took his own life this morning.”

I was writing an email on my iPhone and forgot to open the garage door before warming up my truck.  No one would have thought it was an accident. It sure makes me think.

Three thoughts on this one:

1)  Are people accidently killing themselves because they are focused on their mobile devices?

 

The other day I left the gas stove burner on for 7 hours.  I sometimes write emails while driving.  I’ve charged my iPad while using it in the Jacuzzi tub.  A bus almost hit me when I walked into the street without looking up from my phone.

Am I going to kill myself one of these times?

Is anyone going to believe it was an accident?

Today, the garage filled up with fumes and I got dizzy.  I opened the doors before passing out.  Next time I might not be so lucky.

2)  Don’t make the same mistake!

 

It’s cold out and I see so many other folks addicted to their smartphones.  I don’t want anyone to make the same mistake.

The life of an 8pm Warrior can be crazy, hectic, and consuming.  We’re like autopilot sleepwalkers sometimes:  exhausted, overwhelmed, and distracted.  We don’t need to add dead to the list.

Maybe we all need to wake up a bit.

3)  Are we telling people who we truly are?

 

When I told others about my brush with death, my wife and a close friend both said they would assume I killed myself.  Yes, 2010 wasn’t a great year for my business and I still ache from it, but I never thought people would make that mistake.  It makes me wonder if my personal goals I discuss here on the blog are taken seriously.  Do I sound like someone who would kill themself?  Do I seem fake or delusional?  Maybe I’m not telling people who I really am.  Are you?

I’m not sure.

All I know is if someone finds me dead, I only want them to ask:  A) Who killed him! or B) How did this accident happen?

Suicide isn’t an option.  My death won’t make anyone’s life better, but my life will. The same goes for your life.

We’ve got families that need us, talents that can help others, differences that can be made.  Some folks might believe their life will never be the same after a major failure. It might be true.  That might end up being a good thing.

If we change our focus from ourselves to the lives of others, we find a new meaning for our lives.

We might find a new legacy to leave.

For any of my fellow warriors out there who have considered suicide, I want you to personally email me at Support@8pmWarrior.com so we can talk.  I’ve been in the dumps too.  I’ve felt worthless.  I’ve wondered about my future.  I’ve discovered that life really isn’t about me at all.  It’s too risky to bet it all on yourself.  That’s why I’m now focused on the lives of others.  I invite you to join me.

My death won’t prompt candle light vigils around the world or make newspaper headlines.  However, as long as I’m living I can still make a difference to someone. Until that changes, I will never take my own life.  Never.

Neither should you.

Have an extrospective night,

Aaron@Biebert

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22 comments on “Death by iPhone”

  1. All I can say is as warriors, we must always keep on fighting…..

    Warriors fight on…..

    It does not matter how many times a Warrior gets knocked down…

    A Warrior will get back up swinging…

    A Warrior cannot be stopped!

    Warriors never stop fighting….

    Even when they see the odds are stacked against them….

    Warriors do not care if they have lost a few battles….

    Warriors know the war is not over until they say it is over….

    Victory belongs to the Warriors!

  2. Aaron,

    I laughed at the first paragraph, as I am guilty of a few of those mistakes too…sometimes I wonder if aging is the cause, but I think that really we are all just too connected. It is a blessing and a curse, and for a perfectionist like me it can be scary.

    Staying organized and focusing on one’s goals is the best way to combat the blues. It is so easy to get to a low point, and it is only human, but we need to focus on our goals and start chipping away at them daily in order to climb out of the doldrums. Baby steps.

    I love how you reach out to others – that is the best thing anyone can do for another human being. I am glad you are still here, as you have a lot of great information to share!!

    1. Rachel, I wonder if I could nominate myself for a Darwin Award.  :-)

      Thanks for adding some great thoughts to the discussion and it’s good to know that you’d miss me.  I’ll be more careful.

      Have a great day!

  3. Great post, Aaron. I’m glad you realized you didn’t open the garage doors. Personally, I don’t recall any of your posts that made me think you were considering suicide or that you were depressed. I think many people feel under so much pressure to keep up and use the latest technology that common sense sometimes has less priority. I can’t imagine texting or emailing while driving, but I’ve been on my cell phone and haven’t been paying attention to what’s going on around me. I wouldn’t be surprised if more people these days have considered suicide due to the results of the economy. It’s not an easy thing to deal with when you’re down to your last dollar, don’t have anywhere to go and your family aren’t there for you. When one is at their most vulnerable, one’s thinking is skewed. I appreciate your reaching out to others that are going through hard times.

    1. Karen, that’s great to know (that you don’t see me depressed, etc.).  Even though times are tough for so many folks, it’s important to keep moving forward and support others.

      Thanks for your brilliant thoughts.  I appreciate you.

  4. great post and timely, as 2 people have been hit by commuter trains this week in Calgary because they walked into the path of a moving LRT.. just not paying attention.
    I don’t see you as suicidal.. I see an eternal optimist.  I hope that others see the same in me.

    1. Erika, I definitely see you as an optimist!

      That’s sad to hear about the LRT accidents.  I do think we all need to be a bit more careful.  Good warning.

      Also, I’m glad you see me as an optimist.  That’s what I am.

  5. Hi Aaron…I would NEVER think that you took your own life…even without having the pleasure of meeting you IRL, I sense that you are one of the most positive and supportive friends out there in the “cyber” world.  BUT, that being said, you are absolutely right…we need to pay attention…not only to when and how we are communicating in the digital world, but, more importantly, how we are getting our message across in the real world.  I look forward to meeting you one day (it will happen) but until then, I am comforted by the fact that your positive energy, perseverance, love of family and love of career will keep you safe and grounded….as it should for all of us!
    Thanks for an insightful post Aaron!
    Claudia 

  6. Aaron, this is a thought provoking post on so many levels. What struck me was the suicide part and how important is to reach out to people who you think may be in need. It’s like the NYC security ads:” If you see something, say something.”  We’ve all read about overt calls for help via Twitter or Facebook posts (a la Demi Moore responding to a disturbing post by alerting police), but sometimes the calls are more subtle.  If your gut says something is “off”, trust your instincts.  If they sas they need a hug, give them one…if they say they’re feeling stressed, let them know they are not alone.  It doesn’t matter if you don’t know them well … you never know how much a caring response can mean to someone in need. 

    Thank you for sharing.

  7. Aaron, I’m putting this out here in the online world so that all can hold me to it.

    The first time I meet you in person, I’m going to do two things.

    a) kick you in the shins for scaring the jeepers out of me with this post

    b) give you a huge hug

    In answer to your question, I have learned, sadly, this year, that there is not a “type” of person who would take his or her own life. There is not a pattern. There is not a strict list of symptoms you can look up. And therefore, it is always a danger we must watch out for.

    I hope you see from your online community and certainly your real life that there are plenty of people who would be happy to have you continue to live for quite some time. So stop talking to us online, and take care of yourself. Otherwise I will have to go bonkers and beat you up.

    1. Haha, then in that case the first things I’ll have to do are:

      a) Rub my shin and bleep out the reaction to the kick

      b) Hug you back even huger (word?)

      I think you make a great point about patterns.  I guess I shouldn’t be surprised if some folks thought I might do it.  No one seems to know anymore these days.  

      Just the other day a friend told me that she’d lost 3 of her friends to suicide in the last couple months.  Three.

      I know I have friends and loved ones like you that care.  I care back.  Now we just have to make sure we keep letting each other know.

      I’m going to go now since I’m driving…

  8. OMG. You are going to get lots of people who have done many of the same things you have done Aaron. Like me. Yes, it’s scary.

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