Do You Miss Social Media Connections When They’re Gone?

I’ve been gone on vacation and then focused on digging out upon my return.  I’ve been “gone”.

As I got back into the stream of emails, tweets, voicemails, messages, updates, check-ins, texts, questions, phone calls, pins, shout outs, uploads, appointments, posts, sharesscores, and more…I realized something.

Someone is missing!

 

The sad thing was I didn’t know who.  I just knew they were gone.

I wonder if we’re talking to so many people on so many channels that we don’t even know who we’re missing anymore.

Are we forgetting?

  • Clients
  • Family members
  • Friends
  • Mentors

They say the human brain can only maintain an average of 150 weak relationships at a time (Dunbar’s Number), and only 10 strong ones.

You know who was missing?

Me.

You forgot me!  Sadly, I also forgot you too.

Isn’t this crazy?

When we are honest, many of us with a modern social network would admit that we forget each other when we’re gone.  Yes, we remember each other right now, of course.  That’s why it’s so important that people, brands, and blogs stay active and “out there”.  That may be the only way we’re unforgettable in the Attention Era.

When we’re gone, we’re most likely forgotten.

Let’s reconnect tonight,

Aaron@Biebert

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6 Leadership Lessons from the Costa Concordia Captain

Were there any leaders on the Costa Concordia?

 

No joke, I just got off a cruise ship today owned by the same company.  We watched the news updates of the Costa Concordia sinking while sailing on our ship off the coast of Cuba (see below).  It was not amusing.

After reading reports and watching various videos, I have some questions:

  • Why did the captain go to shore hours before the last passenger?
  • Why did they continue to tell the passengers it was merely an electrical issue?
  • Why was the evacuation so disorganized and delayed?

 

The answer is:  Leadership!

 

In this case, it was a lack of leadership.  Here are six lessons we can all take from this leadership debacle:

  1. It’s not “if” bad things will happen, but “when”.  We must always be prepared.
  2. When bad things happen, we must meet the challenges head on.  We cannot deny them.  We cannot hide from them.
  3. Leaders must care first about those under their care.  Will anyone follow that captain again when he gets out of jail?
  4. It’s okay to make mistakes.  It’s not okay to make people suffer or die covering them up.
  5. When everyone knows there’s a crisis, communication is key.  Silence creates more problems.
  6. If you don’t have a real leader, you must be the leader.  We need you!

What happened on the Costa Concordia is inexcusable.  It is wrong.  Someone must make the hard decisions.  Someone must communicate.

This wasn’t just a failure of the captain to lead in the moment.  It was also a failure of the captain to surround himself with real leaders.

Nobody had to die.

As I’ve said before, there is a place for bravery in a modern world.  Leaders must face their mistakes.  Leaders must be the first into danger and the last to leave it behind.

Leaders must speak clearly, honestly, and with strength to take scared followers and turn them into brave warriors as they face their own battles each step of the way.

Let’s learn from this.

Have a safe night,

Aaron@Biebert

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Costa Concordia Videos

Announcement that it’s only an electrical problem as crew members walk around with life jackets on. (Raw footage)


News report about the Costa Concordia captain


Here We Go! (Again?)

2012 is here.  We made it!

Does it feel like New Year’s Day keeps coming faster and faster each year?

What is changing?

 

Are you?

Every year I can’t help but think of the people I know that had big plans, huge hopes, and daring dreams for the last year. I’m always pulling for my fellow warriors, so I hate when it’s all talk, no action.

Warriors go to war, they don’t just talk about it.

I’ll never understand how some folks act like there’s an unlimited supply of days like today. Fresh starts. New years.

Here we go…again?

 

The problem is we only have so many new years before we run out.  This is a sobering thought for sure, but true nevertheless. What would you do if this was your last New Year’s Day?

Would you still keep dreaming or would you start doing?

If you need a calendar to push yourself, take it. But please don’t keep putting off what matters.

You might push it right out of reach.

Have a great year,

Aaron@Biebert

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Your Three Options for 2012

Today we usher in a new year, a new month, a new week.

What did you learn from the last one?

As much as people like talking about the events of last year or predicting the future, we should really focus on something more important.

It’s not what happens that matters. It’s what you learn from the experience.

Bad things happened in 2011. Tons of them.

What did you learn?

 

Bad things will happen in 2012 too. It’s a guarantee.

Here are your three options:

1) Ignorance:

Run away.  Ignore the lessons earned from tough times.  Be shocked again when bad things happen.

2) Awakening:

If you picked option #1 for 2011, you can change your mindset.  Face the hard times, learn from your challenges in 2012.

3) Implementation:

Take the lessons learned in 2011 to prepare for and minimize the damage of tough times ahead.  Run toward the future with eyes wide open.  Be brave.  Be aware.

There are no other options. You’ll either be an idiot, a newbie, or a veteran of hard times.

Thanks for teaching me in 2011.

 

Thanks for your comments.  Thanks for your sharing. Thanks for your heart.

You changed me this year.  I will never be the same.

Thank you.

Here’s to a great year of learning ahead…cheers!

Aaron@Biebert

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The Most Important Project in Your Life…

The most important project in your life is the one you’re working on right now.

The past may be glorious.

The future will always hold new opportunities.

However, what you’re working on right now is all that counts.

Your past doesn’t matter if you don’t win today.  Your future doesn’t matter if you don’t get started on it.

I hear so many people reminiscing about “the good old days” or waiting for the great future they envision.  They can’t move on from the past or they’re waiting to someday conquer the future.

Conquer today!

Start tonight.

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

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Give Nearly the Ultimate Gift

Giving one’s life for another is the ultimate gift.  Right?

However, that sort of sacrifice isn’t a gift often requested or needed in a modern society.  So what’s the next best alternative?

Giving someone a piece of your life.

Ask the adult children of many ultra-successful 8pm Warriors what they really wanted for Christmas while growing up.  It won’t be another pony or sports car.

Does your kid really need 15 more toys?  Does your spouse need another shirt?  Do your team members really need golf balls or trinkets with your company logo?

Are they even gifts if they’re not wanted or needed?

What do most people truly want from their parents, spouses, children, leaders, or mentors?

Time.

Attention.

Some of your Life.

 

Basically, they want the stuff you can’t buy, fake, or transfer.

Next time you’re wondering what to get the “person who has everything”, try giving them a piece of your life.  Give them an extra amount of your precious time.  Even a smallest amount is appreciated.

To all of you who have taken a piece of your life this past year and given it to me in the form of feedback, ideas, or sharing my posts:

Thank you for nearly the ultimate gift!

 

I am thankful for your time.

Have a Merry Christmas!

Aaron@Biebert

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When Leadership Doesn’t Matter

Leadership doesn’t matter if…

  • You don’t need to innovate
  • No one competes with your group
  • Everything is automated
  • There is no turnover in staff
  • Everyone knows what your company does

Congrats to those of you who don’t need leadership in your organization.

That’s really neat.

Organizations that don’t value leadership won’t be here in a couple years to need it.  Interesting how that works…

For the rest of us, it’s time to innovate, strategize, recruit, and envision.

Nevertheless, I’m continually surprised by how many managers don’t lead, how many companies cut down their leadership ranks to save money, and how many leaders don’t bother to lead themselves higher first.

Difficult times call for stronger leaders.  We need you tonight.

Have a leadership night,

Aaron@Biebert

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The Secret Way Leaders Make People Disappear

Many leaders are finding themselves developing a new skill set.

They’ve become magicians.

Like the movie “The Prestige”, they’ve become very good at making people disappear. In some cases, they don’t even know how they’re doing it and are confused when it happens.

Even though it’s against the strict “Magicians Code”, I’m going to let you in on the secret.  Maybe you can learn something from it.

It’s really easy to make people disappear.

 

Just ignore them!

  • Clients getting annoying? Ignore their needs.
  • Talented team members monopolizing your schedule? Close your door and don’t return emails.
  • Friends or family taking up too much time? Stop talking to them.
  • Annoyed with pesky investors? Don’t share information with them.

It works for social media connections, mentors, and significant others too.  Almost everything will disappear eventually if you ignore it long enough.

That’s probably not something you should ignore.

Have a good night,

Aaron@Biebert

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