An Ultimate Goal in Life – What’s Yours?

Have a family?

Buy a home?

Retire someday?

Like you, I work too hard to be satisfied with common achievements.  I’ve always set big goals, but struggled to figure out my ultimate goal in life.  I just told myself to keep planning, working, pushing, and winning and I’ll end up somewhere great.

Unfortunately, the “just keep trending upward” strategy doesn’t work well when facing multiple losses.  There were times I couldn’t tell where I was headed.

I know I’m not the only one, so let’s look to the future, set one ultimate goal for our lives, and “accelerate through the corner” as the economy improves.

The pains many of us feel will go away and the time will come when we look back and smile fondly on the day we decided to restart, relearn, or relaunch ourselves into the world.

Maybe that day is today.

Last week I finally figured out my ultimate goal in life and I’m going to share it tomorrow with five reasons I believe in the “Go Big or Go Home” goal setting approach.

Sometimes people define their goals, other times goals define their people.

I’m ready to be defined.

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

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We are all “Failures”

It’s not failure that defines a person, for we are all “failures” at some point.  Aching, saddened, weak, and discouraged, we’ve all been there.

What defines us is that next step.

Will we settle down into our failing situation and make excuses, blame others, or give up? Or will we find the strength to claw our way out of the pit?

Bad things do happen to good people and it’s important that we don’t let failure define us.

Let it refine us!

Let us find strength, gain character, and be ready for what lies ahead.  Luck favors the prepared, so be up on your feet and ready for when your time is here.

It’s coming!

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

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There’s So Much More than Independence

While celebrating Independence Day this afternoon, I got to thinking…

Why do so few people talk about the next step after independence?  When do we get to celebrate interdependence?

As much as I love independence, there’s so much more.  Before I continue, let me define three stages of dependence as I see them:

  1. Dependence – You need someone
  2. Independence – You don’t need someone
  3. Interdependence – You choose to need someone

Every major success I’ve had in my life is because of otherwise independent people who chose to give up some independence in order to make something great…together.  That’s interdependence.

When I was younger, I focused on independence and sought it at every turn. I went to college five hours away. I started my first business when I was 24 so I could work for myself.  

I was obsessed with independence!  In my immaturity I thought it was the goal, not just a step.

Those days are gone now.

Together we can always achieve more and that’s something to celebrate.  Major achievements require synergy.  Greater success requires interdependence.

Let me know if you agree.

Have an interdependent night,

Aaron@Biebert

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One Size Fits…You!

Each one of us is unique. No two 8pm Warriors are the exact same size.

I’ve worn a one-size-fits-all hospital gown in the past and it wasn’t a great fit.  Probably not the first choice of apparel for many people…

Many other “free” things only come in one size too:

  • Grocery bags
  • Baseball cap giveaways
  • Drink trays at the theater or drive thru
  • And many others

However, I have yet to find a “one size fits all” life.

The problem with “one size fits all” is that it usually means “this size fits no one”.  In the end, no one really wants it.  It doesn’t fit.

The same goes for life.

So then why do so many people base their happiness on how well their life compares to others?  Why do some parents drag their children down the same path?  Why do some children strive to be just like others?  It doesn’t work.

No matter what anyone says, you must follow your own heart, do what you love, chase your dreams, and find the one life that fits you.

We only get one, so it better fit right.

Have a great night!

Aaron@Biebert

PS. The same goes for business….make something that fits. It’s what people crave.  In this era, there’s no excuse.

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9 Steps to Succeed in the New World (Commencement Address)

It’s May and that means graduation season.  Right now millions of college graduates are chasing a limited number of jobs. It’s a war out there and the time has come for students to turn into warriors.

Every year, I write a commencement address and here are my notes for 2011.  Please add your tips in the comment section or on the 8pm Warriors Discussion Forum on Facebook.

Here is just one 8pm Warrior’s simplified plan to succeed in the “New World” we all face:

1)  Commit to something bigger than yourself.

It’s harder to quit on something more important than yourself.  Have a goal. Be on a mission. Change the world. Save a life.

If you want to succeed, you must commit yourself to doing something big. Go big or go home.

2) Figure out what you love to do.

I guarantee you will not succeed doing anything you don’t love.  It’s just too hard these days to conquer the challenges you will face if you don’t love your work.

I am convinced that no matter what, if you do what you love, you will find a way to make money.  The internet allows passionate people to make money on niches.

3) Start doing it. Now.

If you don’t love what you’re doing, make a change.  Don’t put it into your 5 year plan.  Start today.  Even if you have to get/keep your day job, get an 8pm Warrior job and then listen, learn, and begin tonight.

4) Meet others who love what you love.

Few people can win alone anymore.  The world is too complex and we need people to pick us up when we’re tired, broken, and failing.  It’s a war out there, and you will fail, fall, and need help.  Find others, learn from them and win.  Together you are stronger.

5)  Be different.

There is too much in this world:  too much information, too many things, too many messages, and too many people.  If you’re a “One in a Million” type of person, that isn’t good enough anymore.  That means there are 6,800 other people just like you out there, and they are all connected on the internet.

You need to stand out, find a niche, and be unique.  You need to be the lone zebra in a stable of horses at the dude ranch.  Guess which one everyone will want to ride. Be the zebra.

6)  Make long-term plans, not short-term ones.

If you’ve committed yourself to something special, keep your eye on it.  Make short-term adjustments, but focus on the big picture.  It’s too easy to get distracted these days, so you need to be working towards long-term goals.  Don’t waste energy on achieving short term goals.  Everything should lead toward the end goal.

7)  Work until you drop.

Once you’ve got a focus, a method, and a plan, you need to work it until you pass out.  Don’t forget about your family, but do forget about long vacations, spa days, and “hanging around the house”.  Tick, tock, tick, tock.  You are getting older, the world is moving forward.  Rest when you make it or you die.

8 )  Don’t be selfish.

You will need to give things, thoughts, and time away before you get anything in return.  I’m not sure exactly why, other than people like nice people and are willing to help them in return.

Give, give, give.

9) Take your magic step.

If you will succeed, there will be one magic step only you will discover.  The very nature of our world is that we cannot all have the same path, the same steps towards our dreams.  You will need to take a unique step along the way, and it will be something that only you will find.

Call it magic or whatever you’d like, but you’ll need it and I can’t tell you what to look for.

It might be like the moment Bill Gates quit college to start Microsoft or when Mark Zuckerberg pushed send to share Facebook for the first time.  We all have a step in life that we will need to take to achieve our dreams.

When you see yours.  Take it!

Let me know if I can help.

Have a great life,

Aaron@Biebert
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The Year of the Underdog?

I hope this year’s Final Four is a sign of things to come for all my fellow warriors that are undersized, out-manned, or “too young” to make it.

Here’s a quick recap:

In their own brackets, VCU was the #11 seed (had to play an extra game to even get in), Butler was #8, Kentucky was #4, and Connecticut was #3, effectively making them tied for the #41, #33, #17, and #13 seeds overall.  Everyone is wondering where all the heavy favorites went…

Let’s talk about the underdogs!

Looking for the classic underdog story? Look no further than Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU).  In order to make it to the Final Four they had to play an extra game against USC and then win four games against higher rated opponents (#6, #3, #10, and #1).

On top of that, they lack an experienced “battle hardened” leader. Their coach, Shaka Smart, is the 2nd youngest coach in the NCAA tournament at 33 years old.

Butler has the 3rd youngest coach in the tournament (Brad Stevens is 34 years old) and had to beat #1, #2 and #4 in their bracket.  Talk about uphill battles!

In the business world I like being the underdog.  That’s how I know I’m pushing myself hard enough.  I like being the youngest guy in the room, competing against the biggest companies, fighting to win battles no one picks me to win.

I absolutely love it.

Sometimes I get crushed, but sometimes I get to feel like Butler right now in the championship.  I wouldn’t have it any other way.

So what’s the secret behind this 33 year old VCU coach from Oregon, WI?  Here’s what he had to say to his team and I think we can all take away something from it:

  • [Optimism] “The teams advancing, they don’t look at the glass half empty. They don’t look at the roadblocks in the way.”
  • [Excuses] “Concerns send you home. Excuses send you home.”
  • [Positive Outlook] “Make no mistake about it, our guys believe we can win. I know we can win.”

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be cheering for the underdogs to win it all this year.

Let’s make 2011 the “Year of the Underdog!”

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

Push it!

Have you ever tried “half pushing” something heavy?

It doesn’t work.

There is no such thing as a “half push” or semi-push.  We’re either pushing something or not.

Pushing is an “On” or “Off” activity.

The same goes for our work, our dreams, and our personal limits.   We won’t reach our full potential by “sort of pushing” or sometimes pushing.   The more we push, the more we move towards our goals.

We’ve got to keep the dial turned “on.”

On a side note, it’s important to push big things.  If something is too easy to move, then we can’t call it pushing.  It’s just sliding.

Big dreams need big pushes, and big pushes should have big dreams to push.

Push it tonight!

Aaron@Biebert

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Your End Game

Warriors, what will you do when you finally “make it”?

  • Will you retire to Naples?
  • Sail around the world?
  • Buy a home in Telluride?

Help people?

Lately, I’ve been discussing the idea of making a difference in other people’s lives by being “the water” for those thirsting or stuck in the mud.  Not surprisingly, it has sparked quite a discussion on Facebook, Twitter, and the 8pm Warrior blog.

However, many are struggling with whether or not they can do something now.  Not at the end.

I agree.

The end game is tricky because no one knows when the end will come. There are no two month, two day, or two minute warnings.

Instead of waiting until you “make it’, why not go out and make something great happen today.  Make a difference.  Be the water.

Tonight.

Have a great night,

Aaron@Biebert

PS.  Don’t think you can do it?  Andrew Syiek reminded me of Scott Harrison’s story. Check it out below and join me by committing yourself to doing something now.

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