Boston Marathon Tribute Video – All I Can Do

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I saw the graphic photos and the footage of the bomb going off at the Boston Marathon and it shook me too.

Boston Marathon Bomb Victims

I had friends running that race.

Yet, here I was in Milwaukee.  Powerless.

I couldn’t clear blast debris.  I couldn’t carry victims to safety.  The Red Cross didn’t need blood.  I couldn’t chase down the cowards who bombed the race.

 

So I did all I could do.

 

I’m a video guy.  I made a video, so that nobody would forget the heroes and victims…so nobody would minimize what just happened.

Nobody is powerless to help.  We must all do what we can.  Blog, tweet, share, pray, encourage.  Whatever we can.  We must.

Have a safe night,

Aaron @Biebert

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There is so much I don’t know…

8pm Warriors, Giving, Social Media 11 Comments »

Some days I feel like I’ve got it all figured out.

I know what I need to do.  When I need to do it.  How it should be done.  Sometimes I even think I know what others should do.

Other days, I remember the truth…I honestly don’t know that much.

What I do know, I will use.  When I use what I know, I will learn new things.

What I learn, I will share.

 

If you share too, we’ll all learn more quickly.  It’s the power of team.  The power of social media; of “us” versus “me.”

It’s the power of our 8pm Warrior community.

Share something tonight,

Aaron @Biebert

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Give Nearly the Ultimate Gift

Family, Giving, Leadership Thoughts, Time 8 Comments »

Giving one’s life for another is the ultimate gift.  Right?

However, that sort of sacrifice isn’t a gift often requested or needed in a modern society.  So what’s the next best alternative?

Giving someone a piece of your life.

Ask the adult children of many ultra-successful 8pm Warriors what they really wanted for Christmas while growing up.  It won’t be another pony or sports car.

Does your kid really need 15 more toys?  Does your spouse need another shirt?  Do your team members really need golf balls or trinkets with your company logo?

Are they even gifts if they’re not wanted or needed?

What do most people truly want from their parents, spouses, children, leaders, or mentors?

Time.

Attention.

Some of your Life.

 

Basically, they want the stuff you can’t buy, fake, or transfer.

Next time you’re wondering what to get the “person who has everything”, try giving them a piece of your life.  Give them an extra amount of your precious time.  Even a smallest amount is appreciated.

To all of you who have taken a piece of your life this past year and given it to me in the form of feedback, ideas, or sharing my posts:

Thank you for nearly the ultimate gift!

 

I am thankful for your time.

Have a Merry Christmas!

Aaron@Biebert

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5 Lessons Learned from Tweeting & Blogging in Pain

Bravery, Failure, Family, Giving, Teamwork 14 Comments »

Disclosure:  I had surgery recently and am back on prescription Vicodin after trying to get off the pain meds too quickly.  I’m learning some new lessons and think they might be applicable to everyday life.  Hear me out.

We can learn something from my pain.



Here is what I notice as I try to work through the pain and medication:

  • I forget things and I repeat myself.
  • I won’t say things as well as I could if I wasn’t in pain or medicated.
  • I use bad grammer.
  • I get distracted from what I’m working on.
  • I repeat myself after I forget I already said something.

I ramble on.

I wonder if we all make similar mistakes when coping with the pain of going through a breakup, dealing with death, losing business (or a job), or facing other severe challenges in life.

Many try medicating the pain away so they don’t feel it.

Others try ignoring it until they break.

Some try both.

Of course surgery is one thing and life is another.  However, when we see a fellow warrior struggling to get back up after a painful incident, we should help.  For those of us in pain, we should accept help.

We can’t afford to ignore it. We don’t have time to waste.

All of us are guaranteed pain in life.


It’s how we deal with it that determines our future.  We can’t do it alone.

Have a pain-free night,

Aaron@Biebert

PS. If you’re curious how I’ve been tweeting, feel free to follow me at my @Biebert account. Unfortunately, the new new twitter won’t let me reply twice, so I’ve left some of the bad tweets. I probably should take the advice of my doctor and sleep more, tweet less. Let me know what you think.

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Death by iPhone

Failure, Giving, Goals, Loneliness 22 Comments »

“Aaron Biebert took his own life this morning.”

I was writing an email on my iPhone and forgot to open the garage door before warming up my truck.  No one would have thought it was an accident. It sure makes me think.

Three thoughts on this one:

1)  Are people accidently killing themselves because they are focused on their mobile devices?

 

The other day I left the gas stove burner on for 7 hours.  I sometimes write emails while driving.  I’ve charged my iPad while using it in the Jacuzzi tub.  A bus almost hit me when I walked into the street without looking up from my phone.

Am I going to kill myself one of these times?

Is anyone going to believe it was an accident?

Today, the garage filled up with fumes and I got dizzy.  I opened the doors before passing out.  Next time I might not be so lucky.

2)  Don’t make the same mistake!

 

It’s cold out and I see so many other folks addicted to their smartphones.  I don’t want anyone to make the same mistake.

The life of an 8pm Warrior can be crazy, hectic, and consuming.  We’re like autopilot sleepwalkers sometimes:  exhausted, overwhelmed, and distracted.  We don’t need to add dead to the list.

Maybe we all need to wake up a bit.

3)  Are we telling people who we truly are?

 

When I told others about my brush with death, my wife and a close friend both said they would assume I killed myself.  Yes, 2010 wasn’t a great year for my business and I still ache from it, but I never thought people would make that mistake.  It makes me wonder if my personal goals I discuss here on the blog are taken seriously.  Do I sound like someone who would kill themself?  Do I seem fake or delusional?  Maybe I’m not telling people who I really am.  Are you?

I’m not sure.

All I know is if someone finds me dead, I only want them to ask:  A) Who killed him! or B) How did this accident happen?

Suicide isn’t an option.  My death won’t make anyone’s life better, but my life will. The same goes for your life.

We’ve got families that need us, talents that can help others, differences that can be made.  Some folks might believe their life will never be the same after a major failure. It might be true.  That might end up being a good thing.

If we change our focus from ourselves to the lives of others, we find a new meaning for our lives.

We might find a new legacy to leave.

For any of my fellow warriors out there who have considered suicide, I want you to personally email me at Support@8pmWarrior.com so we can talk.  I’ve been in the dumps too.  I’ve felt worthless.  I’ve wondered about my future.  I’ve discovered that life really isn’t about me at all.  It’s too risky to bet it all on yourself.  That’s why I’m now focused on the lives of others.  I invite you to join me.

My death won’t prompt candle light vigils around the world or make newspaper headlines.  However, as long as I’m living I can still make a difference to someone. Until that changes, I will never take my own life.  Never.

Neither should you.

Have an extrospective night,

Aaron@Biebert

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Attribution Error and Why We Need Thanksgiving

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Thanksgiving needs it’s own day because it’s a good thing that doesn’t come naturally.

It’s counter-intuitive, but the richer a country or person becomes, the less thankful they become as well.  Modern psychology backs me up on this.  A successful person often attributes their success to what they’ve done.

Human beings tend to take credit for good things and blame external factors for bad things.  That is part of the fundamental attribution error concept.

Even Abraham Lincoln recognized this in the beginning of his original Thanksgiving Proclamation:

The year that is drawing towards its close, has been filled with the blessings of fruitful fields and healthful skies. To these bounties, which are so constantly enjoyed that we are prone to forget the source from which they come…

- Thanksgiving Proclamation by Abraham Lincoln

We are forgetful.

Great leaders establish rituals that help remind people of what they ought to do and ingrain it into our culture.  The Thanksgiving holiday is no exception.

Take the reminder.  Shake off the cobwebs.  Remember where the good things in your life came from.

Then, say “Thank You“.

Have a meaningful Thanksgiving,

Aaron@Biebert

PS.  I am thankful for the 8pm Warrior community.  I have learned so much from you, your comments, and your friendship. Thank you!

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10 Different Ways to Say Thank You on Thanksgiving

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Regardless of how hard the last year has been, there are still so many things to be thankful for.

Everyone thanks differently, but leaders must thank bigger and never leave doubt of their appreciation.  Take time to do it right.  It’s so important.

Here are 10 different ways to say thank you this Thanksgiving:

1. Walk up and say it

It can be as simple as walking up to a team member and telling them how thankful you are for them.  You can never say it enough.  If you are really thankful, don’t hesitate to say what chokes you up.  Be brave.  Be thankful. Be vocal.

2. Write a handwritten note

I hate writing handwritten notes, so if you ever get one from me you know I am thankful.  I doubt that I’m unique in that way.  In a computerized world, handwritten notes will stand out.

3. Record a video

If you’d like to thank one person (YouTube example) or a whole group (Facebook example), video is a personal way to say thank you when you can’t be with them in person.

4. Give your time

Giving someone your time is giving them nearly the ultimate gift.

Time is money.  Time is precious.  Say thank you by giving them your time and attention.  Share a bottle of wine, write them a Linkedin recommendation, help them move furniture, introduce them to someone who can help them, or just listen.

Whatever you do, make sure it isn’t distracted time.  Put the cell phones, text messages, or emails on hold.  Your attention will show how thankful you are.

5. Share their creation with the world

In a digital world, sharing is caring.  Thank someone who writes, records, or builds something by tweeting, sharing, or blogging about their creations.

6. Give a personal token of your appreciation

I hate gifts that are boring, thoughtless, or sterile.  Giving someone a considerate gift says you actually thought about them.  It says you are really thankful.

7. Blog about your thankfulness

Although it was general in nature, last Thanksgiving I wrote a “Thank You Notes” blog post and emailed it to the people I was thinking about when writing it.  It gave me a chance to demonstrate how strongly I felt, without making it into a public circus.  Not everyone is a fan of the limelight.

8. Make them something

If you have any particular skill at crafting nice things, don’t hesitate to bake, build, write, or paint them something as a thank you.  Just make sure it’s actually nice.

9. Share a meal

Take them out to lunch or dinner.  Breaking bread is a great bonding experience and a wonderful way to say thank you.  Some of my best memories are great meals or a bottle of good wine.

10. Pay it forward

The movie “Pay it Forward” was interesting and helped showcase what might be possible if people paid good deeds forward multiple times.  If you are thankful to someone you can’t contact, pay it forward.

 

In a changing world, there is little certainty for what the future holds.  What should leaders invest in?  Invest in relationships.

Say thank you.

Have a thankful night,

Aaron@Biebert

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Daily Bread Just Tastes Better When You Slice it Yourself

Family, Giving, Goals, Leadership Thoughts, Motivation 16 Comments »

I’ve always believed that what’s earned is sweeter than what’s given. Do you agree?

I’m obsessed with earning things, even to the point of avoiding help sometimes (I’m trying to change that).  I just never wanted to be the guy who “made it” because someone gave it to me.

I want to earn my dreams.

Why?

 

Just watch the average Christmas or birthday gift opening session and you’ll see what I’m talking about. While there will always be some exciting gifts, most gifts I’ve seen (or given) have been set aside with a brief “thanks” and fail to make an impact.

That’s how life works too.  Earning something matters:

  • Students who pay for their own college usually don’t get drunk every night.
  • Business owners who build their companies typically lead them better than those who inherit them.
  • Employees that earn promotions usually care more about their work than those who get promoted due to nepotism, intra-office relationships, blackmail, etc.
  • Nearly 100% of people who win the lottery blow it all and end up poor.

In nearly every case that I’ve seen, the people who earn something always cherish it more than those who are given it.

I want to cherish my life.

Reality Meets Ideology

 

In reality, rarely does anyone accomplish anything 100% on their own.  Believe me.  I learned this the hard way trying to do too much alone.

In almost every case we are in our current situation because of others.

However, this fact doesn’t mean a collaborative life has to be meaningless and empty because we didn’t “earn it” every inch of the way.  The above principle still applies. The way we feel a sense of accomplishment is when we effectively use what we’ve been given to accomplish more, push further, and find a way to slice the daily bread that’s been given to us.

In this metaphor, we may not earn “the bread”, but we do earn what happens when we slice it, cook with it, and use it to do something amazing.  In other words, just because someone gave us the bread doesn’t mean we didn’t earn the french toast, bread pudding, or club sandwich we just made.

Earning is a mindset.

If you care about your employees, family members, or friends…help them earn something.  Don’t just give it to them.  That’s the best gift you can give.

Kids

I want my children to live a fulfilling life of meaningful achievements and I think it starts when they’re young.  Today, my wife and I gave our 4 year old daughter her first bike.

However, she had to “earn it.”

She did extra chores, weeded the garden, hauled hedge clippings, and helped dad with a commercial (below).  When she saw the bike that she earned, it may have been the sweetest moment in her entire life!

Success!  Accomplishment!  Earning!

Her hard work paid off.  Now she’s got a taste for hard work, winning, and her shiny new bike.

Tonight my friends, I urge you to keep slicing your own bread, make those around you earn it, and cherish your life.

Have a great night!

Aaron@Biebert

PS. Here is that commercial I produced for a social media campaign that Sydney was in. Let me know if you have feedback:


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