As a video producer & director, I work with a lot of creative talent. I also work with a lot of business leaders and entrepreneurs.
I constantly hear talk like this:
- “I’m waiting for my big break.”
- “That giant order was a big break for his new business. Hoping I’ll get news like that someday.”
- “I’m jealous of her because she got her big break before I got mine.”
After hearing it again today, I wanted to share a little insider secret.
The “Big Break” doesn’t exist.
Not only that, but it’s a damaging idea because some people are literally waiting for their big break. Instead of hitting the pavement each day, running for their life towards their goals…they are waiting.
They are hoping.
Every “big break” is really just a series of small steps. The person got better every day. They made more connections. They moved forward.
Then, they ran into the right person. Big break you say? Nope.
The right person isn’t Santa Claus, delivering big breaks. The right person doesn’t help people who aren’t right for them. They aren’t a charity.
You need to be ready when you meet the right person. It won’t be your big break.
Just the next step.
Focus on the small steps tonight,
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My 87 year-old grandfather wept openly today after my grandmother (his wife of 60 years) was admitted into hospice care. This is her last week on earth.
“I guess we won’t be playing cards tonight,” he sadly remarked before heading home alone. I shed tears also. What a sad situation.
It doesn’t seem like life gets easier with age.
As I get older, I seem to lose more people and see more clearly what I’m actually losing. Time goes faster. My body regenerates slower.
This isn’t getting easier.
Many young people think life will get easier when they get older, make more money, have more experience, know more people, etc.
Life only gets harder.
So what’s anyone waiting for? Experience is overrated. We need more people doing what they love, helping those they love. Now.
There’s no time like tonight,
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Life is full of important decisions we need to make.
“Should I get married?” ”Should I start a business?” ”Should we have a baby?”
Just when you think you’re done with the tough decisions, they get tougher.
“Should I get divorced?” ”Should I close my business?” ”Should we pull the plug?”
Last month, a friend of mine had her pregnant sister (Emily) rushed to the hospital. Major problems. Heart stopped. Coma.
This is Emily. I am overwhelmed looking at all the posts saying you are praying for me and my family. Thank you so much. I am very blessed! I have been at home for four weeks now with around-the-clock supervision–gaining strength, and able to see this screen! :)
It feels strange to share this on facebook, but I want to give you an update so you can pray specifically if you wish…:
Two weeks ago, I had a 20-week ultrasound. The doctor told Andy and me that our baby will not live. The doctor further said that continuing the pregnancy is a huge risk to my life, so she recommended terminating the pregnancy. Our baby’s heart is still beating.
Last Thursday, we had another ultrasound which showed more fluid in the head than the previous ultrasound – not a good sign. However, the doctor seemed less urgent about ending the pregnancy at that appointment. We had my family with us to hear the details themselves and to be with us in case we had to make a decision then.
We have been praying and thinking and talking with each other and with our pastors and family and friends. Our current plan is to watch my health closely and to again have another ultrasound this week and see if baby’s health continues to go down or not.
Prayers for wisdom, patience, and peace of mind would be very much appreciated.
Emily (and Andy)
P.S. We are open to your thoughts and advice too.
Some life decisions are too difficult to make alone.
Everything we’ve learned up to this point in our lives will not be enough. When faced with the really difficult decisions in life, we can’t trust ourselves.
We are weak. We are blinded. We need more…
We need others.
If you have big plans for your life, be prepared. However, you’ll need more than education, experience, guts, or money.
You’ll need your fellow warriors by your side.
Don’t prepare yourself to make the important decisions in life. Prepare your network. They’re the ones you’ll need.
Begin the preparations tonight,
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Dear winners of the $640,000,000 Mega Millions jackpot,
Congratulations! For now, you are some of the richest people in Maryland, Illinois, Kansas, and the country.
- You can do the kind of work you love now.
- You don’t have to listen to discouraging people who doubt you.
- You can pursue your life goals.
- You can give money to worthy causes.
- You can start your own business.
The world is full of possibilities!
Unfortunately, you didn’t need to win the Mega Millions lottery for these opportunities. These doors opened a long time ago for you.
I was sad today to see the excitement in the eyes of those who bought tickets. The fire was burning.
“Oh, what if I win!”
It makes me sad because so many people quit their dreams early and live for moments like these, chances to open new doors, do work they love, and help people.
Help yourself today. Pretend like you won the Mega Millions lottery. Walk through the doors that are open. Do work you’re passionate about. Give back. Start a business.
Ignore the doubters.
Let’s act like we won tonight,
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Pinterest is being invaded by men. It’s true.
Ready or not, here men come!
I first heard about Pinterest.com from a woman who was telling my wife that she and her daughter are addicted to “pinning” things and looking at “pins” all day. Since I never want to miss the next big thing (addictive is indicative), my ears perked up.
That is until they started talking about the cute hairstyles, pretty dresses, and neat craft ideas they found on Pinterest.
I took a pass and let my wife be the pioneer on this one.
However, about a month ago I started paying attention again after hearing that it was the #3 social network for time spent, #5 traffic driving social network (beat out Google+), and had growth of 400+% in the last six months. On Tuesday, Hitwise tweeted that Pinterest’s visits have grown from 10 million to 17 million in just this month!
I also started noticing more visits to 8pmWarrior.com from Pinterest.com, so I did some research.
This is what I found
There are men on Pinterest?!
I don’t ever want to be a latecommer to the next big party. Plus, I was an art minor in college and enjoy graphic design & video production. Many people (all women) told me that Pinterest was right up my alley.
So I signed up. Yep.
Once on the inside, I found great infographics, inspiring quotes, interesting real estate, funny stuff, and other suitable “pins” for men.
I also learned how to braid hair too. (You can’t win ‘em all)
I might get kicked out of the men’s club for sharing these names, but to prove that I’m not the only guy on Pinterest, I’ve assembled the entire list of other men on Pinterest:
If you’re a guy on Pinterest, please post a link to your profile in the comment section below so I can follow you. The more men I hang out with, the less feminine I feel.
In all seriousness though, I strongly believe this will become something big.
As an entrepreneur, I see the potential for businesses. As a marketing thinker, I see the potential for exposure. In the Attention Era, I see the best stuff in the world getting attention.
Essentially, it’s a visual version of twitter. Instead of links, there are pictures to click.
17,000,000 people went on it this month, which puts it in the top 10 social networks in the world.
Pinterest is going to be big. If I was you, I would check it out.
It isn’t just for girls anymore.
If you need an invite to Pinterest (it’s still private), I’ll send invites to email subscribers of my blog since I already have your email address. Let me know if you need one.
If you’d like to connect on Pinterest, my profile is http://pinterest.com/abiebert.
Try something new tonight,
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2012 is here. We made it!
Does it feel like New Year’s Day keeps coming faster and faster each year?
What is changing?
Every year I can’t help but think of the people I know that had big plans, huge hopes, and daring dreams for the last year. I’m always pulling for my fellow warriors, so I hate when it’s all talk, no action.
Warriors go to war, they don’t just talk about it.
I’ll never understand how some folks act like there’s an unlimited supply of days like today. Fresh starts. New years.
Here we go…again?
The problem is we only have so many new years before we run out. This is a sobering thought for sure, but true nevertheless. What would you do if this was your last New Year’s Day?
Would you still keep dreaming or would you start doing?
If you need a calendar to push yourself, take it. But please don’t keep putting off what matters.
You might push it right out of reach.
Have a great year,
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What is the cost of winning?
I tried something new today in the car. Instead of tweeting/texting/emailing, I thought about the things I’ve lost in pursuit of my life goal. Maybe you can relate?
It’s actually quite startling:
- I was once the ultimate romantic, using my creativity to surprise my wife with special tokens of my love. Now I’m an average husband and I sell my creativity to others.
- When I was a kid, I rode my bike for miles to buy my mom a birthday present. In September, I forgot her birthday.
- I have seven younger siblings. I hardly know them anymore.
- Old friends hear from me once a year, when Facebook tells me it’s their birthday.
- Years ago I was in peak physical shape. Now I’m overweight and out of breath after playing with my kids.
Even though I have experienced the joy of victory, I lost much to get there.
What have you lost?
Despite all the talk about pushing ourselves, delegating, working harder, smarter, or longer, there remains a limit to what one can do each day.
Successful leaders must make choices. Real choices will always lead to loss. Such is the nature of scarcity.
Focus on business? Lose relationships.
Win a war? Lose lives.
Get fame? Lose privacy.
Sometimes you must lose to win. It’s your choice.
Losers won’t choose. Winners are losers. Choosing means losing. Isn’t life complicated?
How do we win?
We win when we’re aware of what we’re losing, but our goals still matter more. We win when we sleep soundly at night.
Chase worthy goals tonight,
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I recently watched “Nature’s Most Amazing Events” and found inspiration in the segment about the annual Pacific Salmon run.
The story serves as a great reminder to all who feel stuck on a path to something great.
Salmon are drawn by instinct to swim against the current, jump huge waterfalls, and avoid massive bears to achieve their mission. Out of every 1000 salmon that are born, only 4 make the round trip from their birth place to the ocean and back again.
It’s the challenge of a lifetime!
However, as if that wasn’t hard enough, sometimes the water levels are too low for the salmon to meet the bears, waterfalls, or heavy currents they’re destined to face. They get stuck before the real battle even begins.
It’s heartbreaking to watch and reminds me of so many brilliant, passionate 8pm Warriors who are stuck.
Then the rain comes.
Just as many of the fish are starting to lose energy and hope, the rainy season begins and allows the fish to resume their epic struggle against all odds to achieve their ultimate life goal. They can finally begin the fight they were designed for.
Many of my fellow 8pm Warriors are on their way to following their dreams. We all signed up for the challenges of developing new products or services, avoiding competitors, and challenging the status quo. We’re okay with swimming against the current.
What we didn’t sign up for was the lack of water.
This economy has dried up many options and left many 8pm Warriors wondering, hurting, and weak.
Tonight I urge you to hold on. Just like those salmon, do not turn back. Do not forfeit your goal or your path. Never give up.
The rain is coming!
The challenges we seek will be here soon enough and the days of funding issues and weak demand will be replaced with the challenges of finding the right people, products, and strategies again.
The pain of failure is much easier to take than the regret of quitting early on something great.
Have a perseverant night,
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